🥀 FAMILY LOYALTY VS. SELF-RESPECT

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Some of the deepest wounds don’t come from enemies they come from expectations wrapped in blood ties. We’re told family is everything but what if “everything” comes at the cost of your peace, your boundaries, your truth. So here let me ask you this. Ask yourself is this what your expectations are from your loved ones? Do you have boundaries and know what they are with each family member. So, with the Silent Contract, Stay Loyal, Stay Small For a lot of us, loyalty was taught through guilt. Not through LOVE. Don't air family business that's just how they are. Let's be realistic that every family has that saying. You owe them for everything they did. Now hear me out but what if what they did was pass down pain they never healed. They do not even know they own TRAUMA they endured. What if you keeping the peace is the very thing keeping you broken. WHEN do you choose yourself.

Choosing Peace Feels Like Betrayal but It’s Actually Alignment-

Let’s be real sometimes choosing yourself means becoming the villain in someone else’s family narrative. And that’s okay. We are at the end of the day someone VILLAIN in someone story. WHO CARES!!!!! You're not disrespecting YOUR in law's whatever family you have built for yourself by healing differently. Who is anyone to say what healin is like to you how you choose to heal from the family trauma that you had to endure throughout the timing. You're not disloyal because you set boundaries. HEAR ME AGAIN when I say this " YOU'RE NOT DISLOYAL BECUASE YOU SET BOUNDARIES"!!! You're not too sensitive you're finally paying attention to what your spirit's been trying to tell you for years. It's time to choose peace and boundaries.

Love Shouldn’t Come with Conditions-

If staying close means staying quiet about your pain. I am going to tell you know I choose to not surround myself around family then. I will not heal from my trauma from family how they choose to fit them. If honoring your elders means dishonoring your truth. Then call me DISRECPTFUL or call me a BITCH. If keeping the family together means losing yourself. I will never loose myself for no one else. When it comes to me and my daughters the foundations of peace and generation cruses being broken. Then it’s not love. This is what you call its control dressed up as culture in families, in-law families and adopted families.

Self-Respect Is the Real Legacy-

Your healing doesn’t disrespect your roots it redeems them. How can you disrespect someone else when you are not respecting yourself. Because somebody in the bloodline or consider blood has to stop pretending dysfunction is tradition. LET'S BE REAL!!! Somebody has to say this. I love y’all. but I’m not dying emotionally just to keep the holiday pictures pretty or painting a picture to be perfect that it is not REAL. Nothing is ever perfect making BETTER yes but never PERFECT! And if that someone, is you stand ten toes in it. STAND ON BUSINESS WHEN IT COMES TO YOU AND YOUR PEACE! Why because at the end of the day they standin on the business they are coming with.

Tap In- On- the Snow C.A.P. Podcast, we talk real even when it’s uncomfortable. We break down what it means to choose truth over tradition, peace over performance, and self-respect over silent suffering. Because if being loyal to them means betraying you, is it really love?

You can love your family and still choose yourself. That’s not betrayal. That’s growth.

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