Friends or Just Familiar

Spotting Real Ones from Gaslighting Ones | A Snow C.A.P. Blog

"Some people aren't your friends, they're just comfortable with your silence." Trent Shelton

Let’s talk friendships the real the fake and the ones you outgrow but keep around and out of habit. Too many of us are walking around with people in our lives who wear the friend label but move like enemies behind closed doors. Have a secret agenda or hidden jealously of your friendship.

Gaslighting Friends Yeah, they Exist

These are the ones who make you feel crazy for how you feel. Constantly shift blame and never take accountability. Minimize your wins or shift the convo to themselves every time you shine. Call you too sensitive when you set boundaries and do not acknowledge those boundaries. Newsflash: That’s not love. That’s manipulation with a smile. You don’t owe loyalty to folks who leave you second-guessing your worth or who you are as a person. That ain't friendship that’s a mind game and Snow C.A.P. don’t play those.

Real Friends Feel Like Peace, Not Performance

Call you out not call you names. " Something I had to work on when I would get upset using Dumbass or Bitch. Even though these names were not appropriate I had to find better ways to express myself and peace. When heated or upset with that person. Want to see you evolve not stay stuck. Celebrate your growth even when it means you're changing. Hold space for your bad days and your good ones. If you can’t be your full self without it turning into jealousy or even competition or guilt trips that’s not your tribe. That’s a spiritual weight holding you back. Holding you from your blessings and Peace.

Familiar Ain’t Always Healthy

Sometimes we keep folks around because of history not harmony or even for reasonings that mean well also. Despite just because y’all shared secrets in middle school. Or became BFF from outside the realms of school that doesn’t mean they deserve a front row seat in your healing season. Let this be your reminder everybody can’t go where you’re GROWING. And that’s okay I always tell my daughters that everyone that we cross paths within life are a season for a reason. NOT EVERYONE IS GONNA GO WHERE YOU'RE GROWING.

Snow C.A.P. Reflection Check-In

Who do I feel drained around even if I love them when was the last time, I felt safe to speak my truth with this person. Am I holding onto this friendship out of love or obligation. These are self-questions you need to ask yourself.

Real Talk from the Snow C.A.P. Podcast

We’re done pretending. We’re ready to pivot. And sometimes that means pivoting away from people who only clapped when we were small. Want to go deeper.

Episode #20 of the Snow C.A.P. Podcast dives into Fake Friends, Familiar Spirits & Finding Real Ones. So, Tap in. Heal up. Set the tone Authentic

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